What is pity party?

A "pity party" is an informal term used to describe a self-indulgent dwelling on one's own sorrows or hardships. It usually involves someone feeling sorry for themselves and may include lamenting their misfortunes or perceived problems. While it's normal to feel upset or disappointed at times, a pity party implies a prolonged focus on negative emotions without actively seeking solutions or moving forward.

Pity parties can occasionally be beneficial for emotional release and validation of one's feelings, but they can also become counterproductive if they prevent someone from taking positive actions or maintaining perspective. In social contexts, others might find it challenging to deal with someone who frequently hosts pity parties, as it can come across as seeking attention or unwillingness to engage in mutual support.

To manage or move beyond a pity party, it might help to:

• Acknowledge and validate your emotions, but set a time limit for dwelling on them.
• Shift focus by practicing gratitude or engaging in activities that bring joy or fulfillment.
• Talk to friends or professionals who can offer support or a more objective viewpoint.
• Take small, actionable steps towards resolving the issues at hand or improving the situation.